(I'm not sure I actually understand what you are saying, I'm not sure I'm able follow your line of reasoning, but here it goes, just the facts)
1 - Apple Bootcamp Drivers come in one of of the DVDs that came with your Mac Mini. The downloads Apple offers are patches to these, not complete downloads. I think they should offer the complete downloads, but this is not something that Parallels broke.
2 - "problem ID? really ... you want me to reboot back to Mac, just so you can get a problem ID? -- really?"
I don't see what's the problem with this, Parallels as a system in their software to gather the necessary data to help you, but it requires the software to be running, obviously. If you want your problem to be resolved it doesn't seem like such an awful thing, to reboot your computer.
3 - I don't see any evidence that your specific problem with your hacked wifi adapter is related to upgrading Parallels from your description.
4 - "the other usb wifi dongles weren't recognized." This is rather weird, considering all USB dongles are supposed to be recognized and work on Windows.
5 - Speaking of hacked wifi adapter, I personally have done this before, back in the days, added an RP-SMA plug to a Wifi USB dongle, so I could plug an external antenna. That dongle is completely dead now, the chip fried, adding an external antenna has its dangers, lasted about 2-3 years thou, problem with electronics is they are very sensitive to voltage.
6 - I'm glad it only fried the adapter and not the USB port. Which leads me to my conclusion coupled with #4, you might have permanently damaged a USB port or the USB bus itself, because I find it very weird these other dongles aren't recognized anymore. Do they work in other PCs? If they don't I guess they are dead too. If they do, there's something wrong hardware wise with your mac. Same for the hacked dongle, it might be dead already or a problem with the mac itself.
Last edited: Jan 21, 2013